Are you asking yourself this question and you are poor? The answer is yes, life is hard and difficult because almost everything that can make it easy has a monetary value attached to it and you are broke
But what if you are asking the same question and you are rich, then you are pure evidence that money is not everything as we perceive it.
But maybe life is supposed to be hard because it would be pointless and not worth living if you had everything you desired.
It’s the problems and challenges that give life meaning with a purpose to live for and without them, life is a meaningless pursuit.
You need challenges and problems to look up to every day to fix to make life worthwhile with a purpose and goals to achieve
The biggest problem with this comes in when your problems are not solved and your challenges are not overcome. You will end up depressed and demoralized
It’s this aspect that we look at those problems and challenges that affect you to the extent of making you feel or think that life is very hard.
Things that make life hard are not only financial related as that takes the most part, but also physical, mental or emotional pain you have can make your life feel hard
Below are 9 reasons that provide the answer to why life is very hard;
You will need to figure out which of these reasons exactly is making you think and feel like life is very hard and do not be surprised if most of them are out of your control
Why is life so hard
1. You are poor
In this era today and as old as time, most things have been run on money. Its gets too odd when you realize no one will love you if are poor but when actually love is a feeling none of us bought but it actually ended up monetized due to its demand and necessity
We all crave loving and being loved back freely and not paying, manipulating or blackmailing someone to love us
As if that’s not enough even God who most of us claim loves us needs to be paid for, the desperation for God to do for us miracles has gotten religion into a business entity.
This is where you would question religious entities, does God only want you when you are well off and what are the chances you would care about God if you were well off.
Its people that are doing poorly in life that are likely to seek God not those who are well off, take for instance if a poor person fails to have children, he will run to a priest for prayers while a rich person will just go to a fertility hospital and pay for surrogacy
Or if a poor person gets a heart disease that requires surgery, he will just have to pray for a miracle whilst a rich person will just move abroad to skilled doctors and have the procedure done
In the above examples you can see who is likely to wonder why life is so hard for them and the difference is being created by having money but as they say, humans treat but God heals
Love and religion are some of the things you would expect to be free since love is a feeling we are born with to express and God wants us to go to him the way we are with all our problems but then it gets sad when you realize a priest will not pray for you if you don’t take a little bit of money to him in form of tithe even if you have gone to pray for riches since you are poor and neither will anyone love you unless you pay them something
Honestly with the way everything has a price tag on it even what would have been free like love then nothing is going to come easily
A good education comes at a cost, good shelter comes at a cost, good health services, a balanced diet come at a cost and even friends want you when you have some money on you and some of these are life necessities
So if you lack money to acquire some of these needs to run your life then life is definitely going to be so hard to you since literally money is everything today
Currently, we are lucky there is no price tag on the air we breathe but someday when the air we breathe has been hugely intoxicated, it will be the rich to breathe clean oxygen and would probably be heavily taxed for it.
So you can imagine what poor people will be going through at the point.
I can go the whole day about the issue of money because over 90 percent of people would find life easy if you gave them money, in fact, most of the problems or challenges that are making people’s lives very hard can be solved by money if not all
2. You have failed at something
Life will certainly turn out to be hard if you failed at something you needed to pass.
The fact that we cannot tell how the future will be, the current test always seems to be the only shot you got and failure to succeed at it, will definitely make life even harder than it was before.
Take for instance you failed a job interview and you have been out of work for a while, this will really make life feel hard considering you are not able to make some money to run daily life errands.
3. You need God to show you a sign.
We all need God to show us a sign. The story of job in the bible shows persistence and enduring all the pain with the hope that his God will reward him for his faith
But what about today in the 21st century when you have really tried to pray to God for a sign and you are not getting any glimmer of hope. You will start to wonder if God has forsaken you
Then definitely life is going to be very hard if the all mighty God does not show you a sign that things will get better and in the end, you might end up trying other options which might be very hard considering that asking God for a sign would have been an easier option
4. Relationships have gone wrong
A relationship gone wrong will have a serious toll on you and is going to make life very hard.
The effect of a break up in relationships depends on how deeply you loved someone or how strongly you trusted them
Having any of your relationships go wrong, be it a break up with a lover, loss of a loved one or disagreements with parents can certainly make life very hard considering these are natural emotions we crave for with people.
Even friends betraying you would make your life feel so hard, basing on how you trusted them and the effect of their betrayal actions
Depending on how bad a relationship can go, it could also lead post-stress traumatic disorder which will not make life any easier for you
5. You have a physical disability or a rare disease
Once you are different from what people are used to or what is perceived as normal by the general population then you will not have it easy at all.
A person that is different in a negative way is going to find life hard take, for instance, being born with no legs, arms or even lacking any body part because they are all equally useful
There are people that are able to make it with disabilities, but how many are they? And that number is really small and we can hardly name any ourselves.
Let alone being physically disabled, most people will shun you which will make you a loner, depressed and unloved. There is no way life will be worth it when no one loves you.
Even an illness like sickle cell or cancer will make life a living hell for some people and this will definitely make life very hard for them.
Few people can bare living with a brain tumor. this kind of condition will make you feel like dying is easy and living is hard
6. You are comparing yourself to someone else
Once you risk and start comparing your self to someone else you are likely to get the two results,
i) Either you will feel happy that you are doing better than them
ii) or you will feel bad that they are doing better than you.
But the thing with comparing ourselves to others is we mostly look at how they are better than us, we tend to look at their strengths against our weaknesses which will make you feel bad
The end result is asking yourself why life is very hard for you because someone else is having it easy according to your judgment without even considering the factors that led to the different results
7. You lack freedom
We all want to be free much as it’s an illusion at least you need to feel you are free. And if you are having any form of constraint that is stopping you from doing whatever you want then life will feel hard.
Being behind bars is definitely going to make life pretty hard considering your freedom is put on hold in a lot of ways and you become a complete puppet that is controlled in every way and you cannot express yourself as desired
That will make life hard because life is not meant to be lived like that.
8. Life is supposed to be hard
Think about it. Maybe it’s a hard knock life and it’s supposed to be hard and you do not have much of an option on it. The law of polarity tends to think that opposites must occur.
Maybe that’s why life is so hard for some and not others but also we need the pain to understand joy, we need happiness to also understand sadness as one cannot exist without the other
So if life can be easy for someone else then maybe its meant to be hard for you and that’s why it’s actually hard for you.
On the other hand life is hard for everyone in one way or another and not just you alone, for example;
If you share your troubles with someone, they start sharing their own to prove that your troubles are nothing compared to theirs.
Maybe we have lost the art of understanding and sympathizing that’s if we have ever had it anyway
Maybe its to make you feel better that there are people in a worse state than you so you should be grateful you are not in a worse state like them and hold on other than whining about your problems
But mostly it shows everyone is finding life hard for them in one way or another, at one thing or the other and it’s not you alone though most people hide the hard aspects of their lives from being known
9. You are very unlucky or cursed
There is a thin line between a blessing and luck but both imply things going well for you. Some people have all the luck in the world and others do not and that is where life is unfair
But then what happens when everything just keeps on going wrong. You lose your job, your wife leaves, you get an accident. You wonder how some people got so lucky and what the hell happened to you.
Then the possible questions would be why life is very hard? Why is this happening to me? You certainly cannot have a series of unfortunate events and you do not hate life. After all, we all want a good life, not a life full of negative events
But luck is complicated to define or understand because it’s a series of events and actions that can be explained logically so everyone can get it or luck does not exist and it’s just hard work
But, on the other hand, you can notice someone was lucky because nobody ever saw it coming not even themselves
And some people are born lucky. Take for instance Paris Hilton she inherited the Hilton hotel franchise, now that’s being born lucky. You don’t have to work hard for that.
So are you lucky or blessed before you find life difficult for you
What to do when life is hard
These 8 tips will help you on what to do when life is hard but most of all help you to avoid life getting hard
1. Learn to handle failure.
Failing at anything in life will definitely make your life hard no doubt. In some instances you do not get a second chance and messing up your chance could spell doom for you.
You should learn and accept certain things in your life and get back up and do not let them make the end of you but instead, let your failures be lessons to learn from.
Besides that, there are no guarantees that hard work pays neither is there an assurance that if you are lazy you will fail
But how do you handle a situation where you fail after putting in your time, energy and hard work because you can get fired tomorrow and be replaced. Can you handle that right now? Because if you cannot life will be very hard for you
Trust is overrated. Everyone for himself and God for us all. No one wants you to succeed or cares if you do unless they will benefit from your success.
You should know this as a person to avoid disappointments and when people try to act selfish towards you so you will aviod any regrets in life as a result of expectations
Knowing that you are responsible for everything in your life will help you to avoid disappointments that would make your life hard when you don’t get what you expected
This will also help you plan better by not counting on anyone but yourself thus no disappointments
3. Stop comparing your self to anyone and forget the social media scam where everyone has a perfect life apart from you
This is really hard to believe but most people are not happy on Facebook or Instagram.
It’s the number of likes and replies that are making them feel better about themselves.
Comparing yourself to your Facebook friends Is just going to create a hollow feeling of lacking, not being contented and being unsatisfied with what you have because you have seen someone else has a fake better thing than you and you will just keep wondering why your life is so hard compared to others
It’s like someone taking a picture in a plane going for heart surgery. This will make you feel like you have failed in life yet you have perfect health that you would never switch for a plane ticket to have heart surgery but because the poster did not talk about the surgery you won’t know why he boarded a plane to travel overseas
Everyone is trying to fake being well off if they are not that’s why you will hardly ever see anyone post a bad thing happening to their lives as if there is none but that’s what social media has come to, it’s a place show people how well off you are and that you have a perfect life
4. Start your own business
Starting your own business is really going to be hard.
You need money to make money and in this case, you need capital to invest to make more money.
But one thing for sure most times as long as you are working for someone else you are limited to working for a survival wage that can only cater to your day to day basic needs of life.
Unless you earn extremely well you will not have enough disposable income to start up your own business unless you try hard and save on the salary you earn.
Having your own job would be a great back up plan or having at least two jobs would come handy during the hard times
What would you do if you got fired or got an accident? That’s when you will ask yourself why life is very hard if you do not own any business to carter for your needs in that period of bad events let alone having insurance
5. Hope for the best but expecting the worst
It’s pretty odd to do something and expect another but that’s one way you can handle failure and realities of life.
If you went in a relationship knowing you can be heartbroken at any time. It would help you handle the break easily than when you did not see it coming
Or when you work very hard at your job but at the back of your mind, you know you can be fired at any time.
Expecting the worst but hoping the best will help you prepare mentally and emotionally for the hard times in life
6. Giving religious scams a break
I don’t know why God wants tithe from believers when most are poor and he is all capable
But the religion in the 21st century should definitely be given a break because it all works for religious leaders and the sheep that follow them remain in their bad lives
So put your religious beliefs aside because they will just drain you with unrealistic and selfish fake leaders who are also trying to make ends meet and trying to capitalize on your ignorance and desperation to control you
In the end, you will ask yourself why God has forsaken you and made your life hard but when you are just living an illusion of an all-mighty God doing things for you besides, why do bad things happen if there is a God though that is answered by the logical problem of evil and suffering
If you cannot give up on your Lord follow Mathew 6.6 ” But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. “
7. There is nothing like government caring for you
Your so-called government is more or less like believing in religion. It’s a control hierarchy system and only those at the top benefit
Taxes to drain you of your hard-earned money to benefit politicians who exempt themselves from paying them.
The laws are designed to work on other people and except for government leaders. So some inconsiderate laws are likely to make life hard for you
These are selfish individuals who only care for themselves just like anybody else and they have a high chance of their selfishness paying off than it does for you.
Knowing that no one is there for but your self will help you set realistic goals in life without counting on government to help you because it’s then that you will be less surprised by the results if they are bad but it will also help you plan better
8. Be grateful.
And finally are you happy with the little you have.
You cannot have everything, life is not a movie, it is real. You will have some things and lack others but that should not make you feel like life is hard neither should you settle for less but being grateful will put a smile on your face that you have something good and make your life easy
So you should be counting your blessings
Is life hard or easy?
That depends on what you define life to be as life is hard for some people but compared to what? May be to what you thought it would be, what you can handle or to what you see in other people’s lives compared to yours but then again life isn’t fair
Life is not hard for everyone in one way or another, as shown above, the truth is you are likely to have a problem that is making life hard and it’s up to you to figure out that problem that is making life feel very hard and try to do something about it if it’s within your capabilities.
Here is an example of where life would be hard some people and not others for instance if you have money to acquire everything you want then life will be easy for you but if you are broke and you can’t meet most of your needs then life will be hard hence life being hard some people while it’s not hard for others
I will be honest, there are some problems that are really out of our control and you cannot do much about them but embrace them and learn to live with them.
That’s more like accepting them
“But if you can do something about it why worry? And if you cannot do anything about it why worry either?“
Hopefully, you have learned something, so you won’t come up and say life is very hard but instead do something about it.